I went to the middle of nowhere in Pennsylvania this weekend for Alan's wedding and it really was a great time. The actual wedding part was entertaining, as there were references to Apple and Star Wars during the wedding ceremony, and Brian, Mark, Mike, Shawn, and I clearly were the life of the wedding reception. The rest of the weekend was enjoyable too. The roadtrip there with Michelle and Andrew involved constant laughter and stealing a GPS and the game of Twister from a car in a Lowes parking lot (apparently everyone else had exciting trips as well, whether it involved traveling down creepy 3-mile dirt roads or getting attacked by random dogs). We also got drunk in the hotel every night and got to go to an amusement park and eat tons of food and ride the italian trapeze for free too (we were easily the youngest and most obnoxious people on that ride). Essentially, the weekend was a testament to the idea that it doesn't matter where you are or what's around you because all you need is a few good friends to have a memorable time (alcohol and free hotel rooms help too). Furthermore, someone needs to get married soon because weddings are a blast.
So yeah, Alan and Christine got married this weekend. Crazy! I'm really happy for them. I personally can't imagine getting married any time soon though, if at all. Don't get me wrong... I would like to have a family of my own some day. But at this point in time, the idea of marriage is truly horrifying. I can barely keep commitments to myself so I can't even imagine making a commitment of that magnitude.
Today was my first day at Fort Monmouth that I had to work without my friends (all of the other interns have moved on). Judging how work went today, the next 7 weeks are going to be pretty painful (I got an extension, so now my last day is September 30th). Meanwhile, I'm still struggling to find a new job in New Jersey, still stressed due to parents giving me a hard time about my priorities, and still juggling the idea of moving to Maryland to continue working with the government. I don't want to move to Maryland in all honesty, but considering pressure from my parents and the fact that nobody wants to hire me here, I'd feel lots of regret if I pass on this opportunity. Most days I am totally against moving, and other days I start to consider it realistically. After all, the government offers excellent benefits and would help me find a place to live. But the location isn't that great and the job might not be what I really want to do (then again, who really knows what they want to do?). And how could I ever manage to live so far away from all of my friends? I guess that's growing up?
Monday, August 16, 2010
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I have been plagued recently on WORKING a REAL job and if that will require me picking up and moving. I don't like NJ or anything, but fuck that doesn't mean I want to relocate away from everyone at 22. Idk what I am saying right now.
ReplyDelete1) "Brian, Mark, Mike, Shawn, and I clearly were the life of the wedding reception." lol. naturally.
ReplyDelete2) I can't commit to anything either. Therefore, mad snaps to people like Alan and Christine who can. And good luck finding more people our age ready to commit to each other like they did. I feel like it's gonna be a while before I see more close friends tying the knot...
3) Where in Maryland, exactly? How long would you have to commit to this job? When's the latest you can accept the position? If it's a relatively short-term commitment, I'd give it serious consideration. I mean, I don't know about you, but right after high school, I had a really hard time separating from my friends. It took a long ass time, but eventually I learned how to still be friends with them from far away, and I made new friends. And now, I feel like I spent this summer learning how to still be friends with all you Ramapo friends from far away, and that's something I'm going to keep learning - with another 3500 miles between us. This might just be me, but I feel like I'm getting too comfortable where I am, and that scares me even more than leaving does. It's like, if I don't move now, it'll get harder and harder, and maybe I never will, which is terrifying. That could just be me though?
Sorry this is mad long. But yeah, I'm not saying I think you should definitely pick up and leave and go to Maryland, but if you don't find something else around here, I wouldn't rule it out! Who knows who you'll meet and what you'll do and all the things that could happen!
Also, let's hang out again soon please!
Well, it'd be in Hartford county, Maryland... which is the county north of Baltimore county. So it's about 3 hours a way from where I live now. The area is getting built up, and it will probably be like Jersey in 5 years or so, but for now it's kind of desolate. It can be either a short-term or long-term commitment - if I transfer with my current job to Maryland, I have to sign a contract in which I agree to work down there for 2 years or so. If I really like the job, I can stick with it and climb up the ranks.
ReplyDeleteBut it depends on a lot of factors. Right now I do contracting, and I'd rather do accounting, I think. If I can find a more accounting-oriented job down there to transfer to, then perhaps I'd do that. But then I have to consider how the government doesn't pay as well as the private sector does in terms of accounting jobs, so I'd be losing out on a lot of potential. And government jobs don't require CPA certificaiton, but I already took 150 credits at Ramapo just to be eligible for the CPA examination. So yeah, it all depends what path I want to take. I don't want to leave my friends and family here though, and I'd prefer to work local in Jersey or perhaps even commute to NYC. Ugh I'm so torn.
I get what you mean about moving while you still can though. Hmmm.
And yes, let's hang soon!